You know, I don’t think I’ve ever actively cut someone out of my life before. Usually it fizzles out. Or I try to and it blows up in my face.
Anyway, I came across this on Pinterest…
Both are are interesting takes…
Personally, I usually try to resolve things, but the problem with that is people get very defensive or they refuse to acknowledge their behaviour. I’ve had conversations that go like this:
Me: I’m tired of you doing [this], please stop because it upsets me.
Them: NEVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN, BYE.
Me: I found what you said offensive
Them: I’m so sorry blah blah blah *proceeds to cut you off*
Me: I think we need to take a break from talking to each other
Them: OH MY GOSH, YOU ARE SO EVIL.
Me: Why are you jerking me around?
Them: OHHHHH I HATE YOUR FRIEND!
Nine times of ten, the people you want or need to cut off are in that position because you cannot resolve things with them! Or you know that it will just take you back to the same point.
I’d wager that the people who get cut off have some warning. In the cases where people have cut me off, they’ve become slow to respond or don’t at all. That’s cool. On the flip side, it is cruel to sort of cut someone off without telling them why.
That being said…
These days, I’m all for giving people the same energy they give me.
Anyway, I hate that I feel guilty for cutting off someone who truly deserves it. I’m hoping that I don’t let my emotions get the better of me.
This is someone who’s never going to apologize because they feel like they’ve done nothing wrong.
So, I’m setting the condition that they have to apologize for me to ever consider being cool with them.
That way, I can feel like I’d be willing to meet them halfway, but I know that it won’t happen.
What do you guys think? Is it better to talk things out instead of cutting someone off?