Life, Random Thoughts

Honour Your Pace

Don’t compare yourself to others

I always tell people not to compare themselves to others. In fact, I tell people so many things that are reasonable and true but often, I forget to tell them to myself. 

For instance, I do this [indirectly compare myself to others] everyday. Part of it is someone else constantly comparing me to other people and the rest is myself. I wonder why this person’s writing has more comments than mine, I wonder what I’m doing wrong. I wonder why everyone always seems to have a lot to do when I have nothing to do. The thing is that I don’t care. I mean, I care about feedback but not enough for it to dictate how and when or if I write, and what people do has nothing to do with me. It’s their life. I can’t force people to like my work. I can’t force anything. 

However, we live in a world that’s competitive by nature. We fight for everything. Jobs, people, that last discounted bread roll (for real, one old dude almost sent me flying a few weeks back. Over bread!). 

Comparison is going to happen, it’s what you do with it that counts. 

You either realise that you’re not going to be that person and that you have no idea what they’ve done to get where they are or if what you see is real at all or you drive yourself mad trying to emulate an instance. We all provide everyone with a snapshot of our lives. 

Do you really want to compare yourself to one page of an entire book? Nope.

So, like I always say, fuck everyone else and focus on getting what you want in life. 

The irony of me writing this post is not lost on me but I’m hoping that I can come back and read this and enlighten myself. I’m much better at helping other people than I am at helping myself. Not sure why, but what can you do? 

You’ve just gotta honour your pace. 

Life

Quote of the Day (14/03)

Comparison is an act of violence against the self

Yes, this is so true. That person seems to have a picture perfect life. That person has a lovely boyfriend and you’re going to die alone. That person has a better job, better looks, better life.

There’s no way of knowing what’s going on in people’s lives. So there’s no point in comparing yourself to a snapshot of something whole. It’s just a piece of something that lacks context. 

I say this, but I do it all the time. I have people in my life who compare me to others and it’s frustrating. One minute, you’re supposed to be your own person and the next, you have to emulate someone who’s perceived as being better. 

At the end of the day, nothing good comes from it. Just disappointment. And possibly a large bill spent on items you damn well can’t afford. Or crippling student loans because you knew quite well that you didn’t want to be a doctor but had to take it as far as ethically possible (so before the working on live people part) to avoid any drama. 

As always, life is the gift that keeps on giving.